Is it a tugging kind of feeling in your uterus….

Today I caught up with a gorgeous friend of mine I haven’t seen in a long time. She, like another of my friends, has recently gone through a journey of discovery, and after years waiting for her husband to be a “doer” instead of a “talker”, realised that she was better off – and likely to be happier – on her own. Bravo, I say!

Anyway, as any healthy friendship goes, you end up talking about stuff that don’t really apply to you, because you are genuinely interested in your friend’s life, and that is how our chat turned to the fact that two girls she knows are undergoing IVF. Which lead us to pondering how we are the only species that completely refuses to accept that not having child may be our lot in life.

Which lead me to think about the fact that I don’t, in fact, have a human child. Which lead me to think about how my friend DID end up with a human child (and NO, NOT THAT QUESTION; I am PERFECTLY AWARE that a stalk brings you a child when you decide you want one… kidding).

Which lead me to NOT think before asking something that I’m pretty sure you won’t find an answer to on Google.

To be fair, I did precede my question by asking “can I ask a question”, which, if this happens to you, I highly recommend you respond in the negative. Because anyone asking “can I ask a question” knows it ABSOLVES them from your reaction to their question aka *shrug* “I asked…”.

Anyhow. Back to The Question. And to be clear, no, we had not thrown back a couple of gloriously warming reds before this discussion took place: “so, this maternal instinct thing. Is it a tugging of the heart, or like, some sort of tugging in your uterus/ cervix region….”.

Now, my friend is pretty game and after a pause, was quite OK to answer question, although the two conservative gents in swish suits at the table nearby may not have been, if their reaction out of the corner of my eye was anything to go by.

Alright, upon reflection, I guess she may have just been hiding her surprise very well, honed by years of raising two young humans, given her response was a rather feeble “a bit of both I guess”.

Me: briefly contemplating tugging in any region of my body including a discreet focus on the uterus/ certix region Nope, not me. Not a single tug anywhere. IT’S OK, I don’t feel the need to reproduce!

Well, we could both laugh, even if those gents were choking on their upmarket chipolatas.